I was lied to most of my life – by friends, by family, by well meaning strangers on the street, by people who claimed to love me as well as by those who admit that they despise me. In fact, MOST people are fed these very same lies by the people in their lives as well. And we swallow them – hook, line and sinker.
And if you’ve ever been fishing, you know that when a hook gets swallowed, it can be practically impossible to get it out without ripping some guts out with it. The poor unsuspecting fish, who was just looking for a little sustenance is most likely going to die from the removal process. It’s a very rare thing, indeed, to safely and harmlessly eradicate that little weapon of deceit from their belly and toss them back into the cool, fresh waters where they thrive.
It’s the same with us when it comes to these lies. We think we’re being fed the truth by someone who has our best interests at heart. Just like the fish whom I picture swimming happily along when behold- a God from the Dry Land miraculously provides manna from Heaven delivered directly in their line of sight! Little does he (or she) know that eating that forbidden bait will end in it’s demise. That fish just blindly accepts the gift for what it appears to be – an honest to goodness edible blessing from above.
Not that I’m not a huge fan of fishing – I love it. But, the act of ripping out a swallowed hook is not something that I enjoy. It’s heart-breaking to me. I’m not a ‘catch and release’ kind of girl.
But, I digress..
Lies, when swallowed [believed], can be just as difficult to remove from our belly [brain] as a hook from the gut of a fish. It is a difficult process to take something that has been embedded into our belief system and discard it as nothing but bullshit. We don’t like to admit that we’ve accepted an untruth as a fact – that we’ve been duped. Even if the lies we have accepted to be true are ones that hurt us. In fact, sometimes it’s easier to believe them than it is to realize that the people who helped embed them into your mindset were ones who supposedly LOVE you!
So, what are the five lies that almost ended my life?
- I should be ashamed of myself.
- My mistakes are proof of my unworthiness.
- I should learn to be accepting of life the way it is.
- I should just accept my fate.
- I am stupid for doing things differently.
These lies were said in many different ways and during many different periods of my life. But, no matter how they were worded, they still added up to the same thing – that life was meant to be accepted as it was because of the mistakes I made and I should just suck it up and deal with it. In fact, sometimes the lies were not even spoken as words at all, but in actions, insinuations, implications and judgements.
Do you feel me here? Does any of this ring true for you?
While I was born with the inert knowledge that I was meant for greatness, as I got older and experienced a lot of things that tried to convince me of the opposite, I found myself in a place where I didn’t trust that intuitive feeling anymore.
I started feeling those feelings… you know, the ones that comes with all the voices of the well-meaning people who are in all actuality –
* The feelings of shame: (“What, do you think you’re better than everyone else? Just look at all the mistakes you’ve made!“)
* The feelings of guilt: (“I don’t know why YOU think you deserve better, don’t you know your role in life?“)
* The feelings of defeat: (“Carrie, just accept the fact that it is the way it IS.“)
* The feelings of condemnation: (“You’re a high school drop out. Divorced. A bunch of kids. You’ll never amount to anything.“)
* The feelings of unworthiness: (“You’re such a dreamer. So unrealistic. You don’t deserve ANY of that! Just accept what you have and deal with it.“)
And I lived my life in just that fashion, surrounded by people who were more than happy to feed those feelings and reinforce everything they were saying with their own actions.
Deep down, I knew it true. It wasn’t right. And the longer I stayed in that cesspool, the more I began to see that the problem wasn’t ME after all. As low as I had gone, there was still a fire that would not be snuffed out. And that fire scared people.
It made them uncomfortable.
Because being great takes risk. It takes guts. It takes grit. And it takes the kind of power that can only come from Someone greater than ourselves.
It takes a lot of faith to believe it, much more than it does to believe the lies, but here is the truth:
You were never created to live depressed, defeated, guilty, condemned, ashamed or unworthy. You were created to be victorious!
~ Joel Osteen
Do you ever wonder WHY it’s so freakin’ easy to stay stuck – in horrible relationships, in poverty, in sickness, in despair?
Because that’s where the devil wants to keep us and he knows what lazy creatures we are. And if he can get us to believe the lies, he can steal our life.
Yes, living in the belief of those untruths can end your life.
Maybe not in the actual, literal sense, but most definitely in the figurative sense. Because if you are living a life of defeat, condemnation, guilt, shame, depression and unworthiness…
We are not living.
We are dead inside. Zombies.
You are not who the world says you are unless they are agreeing with who God says you are.
When I stopped believing what everyone else said as truth and began ripping out the lie-barbs that were embedded in my brain, THAT is when I truly got my life back.
When I started LIVING.
And this is the kind of life I want for EVERYONE!
Take a moment today and find out who God says you are. Because that’s the truth. And it will set you free!
P.S. Part of my freedom from believing the lies that were fed to me by the world was embracing the fact that I did not have to support my family in the ‘traditional’ sense. This has allowed me to create financial freedom in my life and to help others do the same. In fact, this blog is one of the ways I generate the income that allows my children and I to live the life of our dreams. Want to learn how? I’d love to teach you! Simply fill out the form below to receive my free e-course on how to build a successful and income producing blog.