In a world full of people who are regular participants in the ‘blame game’, self-sabotage is a topic that is usually avoided at all costs. Nobody wants to admit that their own actions (or lack of actions) are keeping them in a life that is unfulfilling and stagnant. It’s so much easier to pin one’s unhappiness on their parents, siblings, school systems, government, etc. than it is to take full responsibility for our own short-comings in life.
Eventually, though, some of us reach the point at which we must choose to either continue on in that type of insanity or do the unthinkable – reflect on our own behaviors – in order to break free from a way of living that we are no longer happy in. When that happens, it is not uncommon to discover that we have been participating in many self-sabotaging behaviors that have stunted our growth and thwarted our pursuit of success in whatever form that my take.
Do you find yourself repeating behaviors that sabotage your success? Are you ready to put your limiting behavior to rest in favor of a better outlook and greater fulfillment?
The first step to the success you crave is being able to recognize the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your success. Once you do, you can banish those beliefs in favor of more empowering ones.
Look for these self-sabotaging tactics in your life, so you can replace them with more productive thoughts that support your success:
1. Settling. Settling for less than your best causes you to stop short of unleashing your fullest potential. Sometimes you settle for less because you’re scared of encountering failure. Other times, you may settle simply because you lack awareness of your own strength.
* Test your strength constantly by going out of your comfort zone. Face your fears, because more often than not, your fear is the only obstacle between you and ultimate success.
2. Expecting too much from others. When you automatically expect help from others, or anticipate that others will bail you out of a tough situation, you’re expecting too much. You are only responsible for yourself.
* Even if your friends and family have helped you in the past, they may choose to let you fend for yourself this time around. Always be prepared to suffer the consequences of your actions and clean up your own mess. Choose a more sensible path that takes into account that you may journey to your destination alone.
3. You feel sorry for yourself. If your current situation causes you to feel like something’s missing, change your circumstances. Instead of dwelling on what could have been and focusing on the unfortunate hand you’ve been dealt, seek to learn from every experience and focus on solutions, instead of problems.
* Your success is your responsibility. Hold yourself accountable for your results and allow unfortunate situations to steer you toward success, instead of deterring you from achieving your dreams. By maintaining this mindset, even your worst trial will be far better than remaining on the sidelines of life.
4. Lack of a second plan. If your initial plan gives less than desired results, your only chance at success is your ability to adapt. Everyone needs a Plan B. You may feel like a pessimist by planning for an unfortunate outcome, but this planning is actually proactive. It shows your mind that you’re serious about reaching your desired destination.
* Ensure your financial security, mental health, and well-being by always planning for the worst while hoping for the best.
If you often find yourself doing any of these self-sabotaging behaviors that hinder your chances of success, decide that today is going to be a new day. The important thing is that you recognize the thought patterns and behaviors that limit you and head in a new direction that supports your success.
Replace stinking thinking with a productive, solution-oriented focus that tells your mind you deserve the success you seek. When you do, your success is inevitable.
~ Carrie A Medford
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