You experience some low points in your life.
Maybe you do things that you thought you’d never have to do to survive.
Until you just can’t LIVE that life anymore.
And you try to escape.
Only to find out that you’ve got a bad case of the crabs!
What’s a person to do??
There is a story about a man who was walking along the beach and saw another man fishing in the surf with a bait bucket beside him. As he drew closer, he saw that the bait bucket had no lid and had live crabs inside.
“Why don’t you cover your bait bucket so the crabs won’t escape?” he said.
“You don’t understand,” the man replied, “If there is one crab in the bucket it would surely crawl out very quickly. However, when there are many crabs in the bucket, if one tries to crawl up the side, the others grab hold of it and pull it back down so that it will share the same fate as the rest of them.”
Just last night I was chatting with a fellow internet marketer on Facebook when one of her crabs came out of the woodwork. She thought she was being funny, but what her statements proved to the world – at least those of use who have already been tested positive for crabs and gotten the cure – that she was suffering from the unfortunate effects of this nasty V.D. [Vicious Douchebaggerism].
See, just like the crabs in the bucket story, this human crab saw my friend starting to slip over the edge into a new and better life. And in her disillusioned mindset, this person did exactly what the crustaceans do.. she tried to grab hold of the one who was escaping and drag her back down into the pit of destruction. She even used some of the 5 Lies That Almost Ended My Life.
Through the years, I have experienced this crab bucket mentality first-hand and I’ve witnessed it’s symptoms and flare-ups happen to my fellow entrepreneurs and out-of-the-box thinkers. And while the actual crustacean-type crabs will settle for simply ripping off your extremities as they prevent you from escaping your awaiting demise in the bucket of life, human crabs will actually rip your heart out and strip you of your self-confidence and hope.
So, what IS the preventative medicine for human crabs?
1.) Learn to recognize them. Unfortunately for us, people infected with the crab-bucket mentality come in many sizes, shapes and forms. They can be people in our family, people we grew up with, people with whom we have shared most of our lives. And their noxious fumes are spread in unsuspecting ways, as well.
Any conversation with these kinds of people that makes you feel as if you aren’t worthy of a better life, more money or more freedom is probably being held with a crab. A person who constantly reminds you of ‘where you came from’ is probably a crab. Someone who laughs at your dreams and inspirations and tries to convince you how the world ‘really is’ – they are probably a crab.
2.) See their crabbiness for what it really is – FEAR & JEALOUSY. Human crabs are scared. They are terrified that they will be left alone in the bottom of the crab bucket. Because of this, they act irrationally and hurtfully, often disguising it as ‘trying to be helpful’.
They don’t believe that they have the same opportunity and ability to escape the crab bucket that you do and so they are filled with jealousy that you have the guts to actually take the steps to DO something with your life, take chances and put yourself out there.
This, to me, is a sad state of mentality to be trapped in. There are many, many people from my past who are still stuck in the crab bucket – still living in a state of depression, fear, uncertainty about the future and hopelessness. And for a while I tried to drag them out of the bucket with me, but I had to learn this next step in preventative medicine.
3.) Quarantine yourself from the crabs as much as humanly possible. If you are not careful, a little flare up of crabs can become a full fledged infestation. As much as this step can hurt, you must distance yourself from as many crabs as you possibly can. You will never get rid of them completely. They tend to pop up in unsuspecting places and at unforeseen times. But, if treated immediately, you can live your life relatively free from crab-bucket mentality carriers.
4.) Develop a thick skin. This is an essential step in the life-long treatment for crabs. While, the previous three steps will help immensely, this fourth step is the one thing that will enable you to continue living your life the way YOU want to, chasing your dreams fearlessly and passionately without getting constantly side-tracked with crab flare-ups.
You need to realize that you are on the right path for you. You have to embrace your true identity and have confidence in yourself when no one else seems to. If you can avoid being pulled down by your crabby friends, relatives and even strangers, you will see ultimate success in anything and everything you want to achieve.
Eff the crabs!
~ Carrie A Medford