“I don’t care who you are, sometimes the temptation to throw in the towel is super strong.”
That’s a Facebook status I posted last night. And it’s true! Every single one of us has times when we feel so overwhelmed that the thought of giving up seems almost right.
To be honest, these last few months have been tough for me and my family. We’ve had a series of unfortunate events, little unexpected emergencies that I wasn’t financially prepared for, and it set us back. Big Time.
But, nobody wants to hear about that, right? People are drawn to me because I’m ‘happy and encouraging’. Because I am a good listener and empathetic to their problems. Because I’m optimistic to a fault, right?
But, let’s get REAL here for a moment. This is life. And I don’t care who you are – we all struggle sometimes, in one way or another. It’s my struggles that have forced me to grow into the person I am today – the one that everyone can talk to because I UNDERSTAND the depths of their struggle. It was my pain and my failures and my tears that has shaped me into the person I have become.
And it’s my determination to never quit (along with a huge amount of God’s grace) that has gotten me this far.
I can count on one hand the amount of times that someone has gotten me out of a hot spot. In 40 years. And that’s ok. I try to be on the ‘helping’ side as much as I possibly can be. That’s how I like it.
I’m not one for excuses. I own every single one of my ‘problems’ and ‘pitfalls’. It’s not my mama’s fault, it’s not the government’s fault, it’s not my baby daddy’s fault. It’s LIFE.
There are a lot of things that people dread and fear that I consider inconveniences now because of my life experiences. There are many decisions that I have made that others have considered ‘questionable’ because of their lack of perspective. To some, I seem to be living a dream life while to others I am still ‘white trash’.
It’s all good.
I’m not ashamed of my struggles. I am empowered by them. And while there are brief moments when I feel the pressure of my responsibilities like an actual weight on my chest, constricting my breath and inciting my heart to random bouts of panic, given a moment to reflect and regroup, I come back stronger than ever.
Financial uncertainty is scary. Health issues are scary. Being a single parent is scary. Being an entrepreneur is scary. Not having Government Assistance to fall back on is scary.
But, what are you going to do? It all comes down to fight or flight, right?
And I am a fighter. I will exhaust every single ounce of my intelligence and my strength and my ingenuity to overcome any obstacle put in my path.
And if it means I need to endure hardships for a brief time, so be it. I may feel like it sometimes, but I will never actually quit.
What are you going through right now that you’ve been getting ‘those feelings’ about? You know, the ones that tell you to just give it up, quit trying, say ‘Fuck It’? Are you struggling in your business? Your relationships? Your job? What is it that you need to take a good, hard look at?
I bet, if you’re anything like me, if you just take a little bit to be calm and look at the situation in a little bit different light – a different perspective – you will find that you really do have it within you to overcome the obstacle that is before you.
Take a deep breath, say a little prayer, acknowledge how far you’ve already come, and begin again. You can do it!
~ Carrie A Medford
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